Thursday, December 28, 2006

The Society of Women in Relationships

So, it occurred to me a few weeks ago that there really is a "secret" club that women join when they are in a relationship. Even if the relationship breaks up, they remain members of this semi-exclusive club.

In my college years, I would fret that I was missing out on some part of being a woman by not being in a relationship. Knowing what I know now, I still believe that.

In the past several weeks, I have been told a lot of things that I never really understood prior to the start of my relationship with Wine Guy. Some of these things are, uhm, more physical than others, but women know what they are talking about, and they choose to let other women in on the secret from time to time.

Right now, with Wine Guy away and me whining about him not texting, not saying what I want on the phone and otherwise just not being mine, I need to hear what other women are telling me.

They are telling me to open up my eyes and realize what a decent, genuine, honorable man I have in my life. They are telling me that it's obvious by his actions and his words that he only wants to be with me. They are telling me that, although it sucks right now, once he's back on Sunday, things will be better again. They are telling me not to start my usual process of pushing someone away simply because he doesn't act exactly how I want him to act.

The Society of Women in Relationships can tell that Wine Guy is a good fit for me. And I am compelled to trust their authority, their combined hundreds of years of experience, on the subject.


Kristen said...

It sounds like The Society is giving you great advice. Just don't panic... let things happen and let them happen naturally. Don't fret about the little things and look forward to the big things!

Sarah said...

Thank you. I generally panic, so I need to be told to calm down on a regular basis (funnily enough, Wine Guy calms me down...but he's the reason I'm a bit of a mess this time!)

Anonymous said...

The Society is definately right on this one! Hope the intiation into said society was pleasant!

Anonymous said...

Hi Sarah,
I've been reading your blog for a little while thanks to your comments on This Fish. I'm in a long term relationship for the first time in my life (I'm 31) and I also need to keep reminding myself how fantastic my man is! Sounds like I need a Society to confide in. :)

singlemuslimah said...

The Society is right. You've got a good one so just relax and enjoy.

Sarah said...

My new year's resolution will help me keep listening to the Society! The initiation was rather unexpected...all of a sudden women were telling me things...I have a sneaking suspicion the same thing will happen when I become a mother!