So, it occurred to me a few weeks ago that there really is a "secret" club that women join when they are in a relationship. Even if the relationship breaks up, they remain members of this semi-exclusive club.
In my college years, I would fret that I was missing out on some part of being a woman by not being in a relationship. Knowing what I know now, I still believe that.
In the past several weeks, I have been told a lot of things that I never really understood prior to the start of my relationship with Wine Guy. Some of these things are, uhm, more physical than others, but women know what they are talking about, and they choose to let other women in on the secret from time to time.
Right now, with Wine Guy away and me whining about him not texting, not saying what I want on the phone and otherwise just not being mine, I need to hear what other women are telling me.
They are telling me to open up my eyes and realize what a decent, genuine, honorable man I have in my life. They are telling me that it's obvious by his actions and his words that he only wants to be with me. They are telling me that, although it sucks right now, once he's back on Sunday, things will be better again. They are telling me not to start my usual process of pushing someone away simply because he doesn't act exactly how I want him to act.
The Society of Women in Relationships can tell that Wine Guy is a good fit for me. And I am compelled to trust their authority, their combined hundreds of years of experience, on the subject.