In Defense of Motherhood
Women can do and be anything.
We can be astronauts or not.
We can be doctors or lawyers or not.
We can teach, sing, dance, run for president, run a major corporation, run a marathon.
Women can also do one major thing that men cannot (and will not ever) do.
Women can be mothers.
I've heard the complaints about how it's Hollywood causing the "mom" craze. It's words like "MILF" and it's products like Prada knock-off diaper bags that let some women take up motherhood like a new hobby with all the accessories. The fact remains, though, that it is natural for a woman to want to have children (though if you don't want children, that doesn't make you somehow unnatural!). There is nothing Hollywood can say that will take away me wanting children.
I have wanted to be a mother since I realized it was something I could do.
Yes, my parents handed me dolls. But they didn't tell me to sit five of them down and discipline them.
Countless times over the years, I have heard that I am too young. Well, folks. I'm 27. I've graduated college. I've gotten a graduate degree. I've paid off my student loans. I am capable of holding down a job. I have medical benefits.
What else do I need to do to make other people stop saying I'm too young (not that it matters, as motherhood, for me, involves marriage, and that's a ways down the road).
No one says to my medical school friend, "Oh, J, you really should quit school and see the world before you become a doctor. You're much too young to be tied down."
Hollywood isn't telling me to be a mother. If anything, Hollywood is telling people not to commit to anything and to run around for ten years before "settling down" at 30 or 40 or 57. We've become a very selfish society. How dare you become a mother at 22! Or 25! Or, lately, gasp, 30! or at all!
What I want is for people to see their dreams come true. If your dreams include seeing your children graduate high school before you turn 60, well, what's wrong with that?
If a woman tells me she doesn't want to have children, I applaud her for making that statement out loud and for holding true to it. I have several friends who will not have children. Good. If you don't want children, don't have them. I don't run around trying to convince those who don't want children that they'd better hurry up and get pregnant, so why do those who don't want children keep trying to get me to jump on their boat?
"Why do you want children? Oh, they're so much trouble."
"What are you going to do with children?!"
"Oh, you're so young. Wait a few years before you start worrying about having children."
I beg of all of you, women and men alike, respect the decisions women make, whether it be to become a mother or to simply enjoy life as an "auntie."
Why do I want children?
Because I do. Because I do believe that my finest career will be as a mother. Because I believe that I will make an excellent mother. Because I want to have children while I am young and energetic.
Because I know that I am meant to be a mother. What's wrong with that?