I tend to forget that when I was a little kid I had terrible tantrums. I forget them, because I grew out of them. But my grandmother never forgot them, and during one major argument, years later, she told me, "Well, we can just go on like this. You can have your little tantrums, and I can stand here and listen." Well, at that point, it wasn't a tantrum, it was a real argument, but the point is that all she could remember is that when I was little I had a tendency to yell (but never to throw things unless I wanted my butt whooped).
I realized the other day that the way we act early on in a relationship, be it a work relationship, a romantic relationship or even a friendship, may well define us forever in the eyes of the other person involved.
At work, it is hard for me to believe that, for some people, I will always be the girl who worked "upstairs" or the girl who volunteered when she was in high school.
It's highly likely that a few particular friends will always see me as someone who complains a lot and does little to solve her own problems.
And, at least until I can truly prove otherwise, WG will remember that I freaked out over a few things early on in our relationship. He is hesitant to change our routine of seeing each other on the weekend, because everytime he's tried, I've had some kind of issue with it. Well, everytime he's tried, there has been a reason for the issue, and the last time he tried was about four months ago, when I was not in a particularly good place, emotionally speaking. We've talked about that, and he understands that I'm a much more reasonable and ridiculously less clingy woman now, but still, there's a part of him that will always see me as I asked him just one more question about Needy Girl.
A single argument. A few tears shed. You never know exactly what the other people in your life will remember, or choose to remember, about you.
I guess that's why it's so important to think before acting...and WG wonders why I take so long to answer a question.