Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Warm and Fuzzy and Pills

So, I went over to Wine Guy's place for the first time last night, and we covered A LOT of ground in one night. We talked about exes, about "what happens if a Catholic marries a non-Catholic, does that person have to convert?" and more...even some topics I didn't anticipate coming up this early, like, urp, birth control.

We're all cozy under a blanket, looking up at the stars on the balcony off of his bedroom, and he says, "This isn't going to be an issue for a long time, but what are your thoughts on birth control?"

Now, before I continue with the details of this conversation, allow me to say that on the way to his place, I called Irene to tell her about my apartment fears, worries, etc., and she asked me if Wine Guy knows about my "waiting for marriage thing." I told her that he didn't and that I didn't plan to bring it up on my own volition.

And he brought it up that same day (Irene, have you been talking to Wine Guy??? j/k)

Back to being cozy under the blanket.

The question again, "What are your thoughts on birth control?"

I pause. And pause. Thinking how to best phrase my response.

"Well, it's not going to be an issue for me until after I get married..."


"and I'm conflicted on it right now. I know that the rhythm method doesn't work...but I'm not sure how I feel otherwise."

"Hmm." (he "hmms" a lot)

"Does that answer your question?"

"Yeah, and I can't make your mind up for you right now."

And so, the semi-awkwardness passed, the snuggling under the blanket continued, he knows I'm waiting for marriage, and I didn't have to bring up the topic. Another hurdle overcome. Sweet.


singlemuslimah said...

Okay, I just have to say...good for you. I'm waiting for marriage too.

Sarah said...

Thank you. It's not something everyone understands, but I'm certainly not going to change my mind! Good for you, too!